Post by tomdurst on May 30, 2015 21:24:13 GMT -5
LET GO AND LET GOD
Letting go helps us to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.--Melody Beattie
When we have someone who is close to us as a friend or family member and they are in some kind of addiction or making decisions that will bring suffering the natural thing is to step in and try to change the person. There are times when some action on our part may be required but we must remember three important principles: We DIDN’T CAUSE the problem, we CAN’T CURE the problem and we CAN’T CONTROL it or its negative results. Ultimately the only thing that we can change for sure is ourself and the way we relate to the person. Most of the time people with issues of addiction, hate, resentment, etc. are like a “black hole” that will absolutely destroy us if we allow ourself to get dragged into it. If we allow someone to destroy us financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually, no good is accomplished and it won’t heal the person’s issues whatsoever. At times it may even worsen the person’s condition for the ego can find great satisfaction in destroying someone else. That tendency to destroy oneself and others may be a subconscious thing but nevertheless it is lurking there and can bring ruination to all parties concerned if it isn’t recognized and dealt with forthrightly. It is not either godly or being more spiritual to allow someone else’s bad choices ruin our life. The principle of “let go and let God” means that we stop trying to change the other person but it doesn’t mean we don’t still love them. Love often means that we must ALLOW others to make their own choices and to experience good or bad results as the case may be. This is properly referred to us “tough love.” There is no set rule for relating to a deeply troubled person who may be in our life so we must continually pray for wisdom with the motivation that healing take place.
Some people and some life situations are so toxic that we need to separate ourselves which is for the best good of all parties involved. Our ultimate goal is healing but at times separation is the best way for this to happen.
I invite you to read LOVINGLY MOVING ON which is on the link below:
LOVINGLY MOVING ON